Singapore is a place of many different fascinations. The rich history of the place brings with it a richness of cultures. People bring their traditions here, and over time, they all begin to merge and borrow from each other, creating fascinating new traditions that can’t exist anywhere else. It’s one of the many benefits of diversity, and one of the best ways for traditions to survive, by evolving. In Singapore, there are situations where some very old ways are still practiced, and it’s very important for visitors to keep in mind that it’s necessary to keep all judgement in check, and to show proper respect.
Especially in ceremonial occasions, respect can get the traveler very far indeed, and can also be a way of seeing some rather interesting ways of doing things. This is as true in temples as it is at mealtimes , where getting by is possible simply by watching how other people do things. In Singapore, like most places, there is a lot of credibility to be earned simply by attempting to do things the right way, and usually someone will show the ropes. It’s important, then, to keep an attitude of reverence, especially in spiritual matters.
Those who might show disdain or even scorn for such traditions as the ghost marriage should be somewhat sensitive, because there are some beliefs that are older than others, and there may be more truth in anything than is known. In that tradition, Chinese Ghost Marriage , the idea is that there is a spirit of a person who has crossed over, and wants to marry on the other side. If the other spirit is agreeable, then these things can be arranged.
There may also be situations where a groom dies close to the wedding date, and the bride decides to go through the ceremony anyway. Another possibility is when a daughter is not wanting to marry in the world, and adopting a husband from the realm of the ancestors will insure that she is remembered and cared for when she passed over. Likewise, an unmarried eldest son who has died may need to take a wife in spirit in order to allow things to unfold for the living. There are many traditions that take care of the dead, and that’s also the largest religion in the world, so Singapore might be a place to learn things about the world and all the inhabitants.